Hey I saw your post the other day about being pressured to hook up with a woman, I thought I would give you a little of my thinking on the subject, don’t think I am presuming to give you advice, I am just telling you my story because I think it may be different than many other people so I offer it as an example of how all people are not the same. I date alot, I like people, I like flirting, I like the boost to my self esteem when some one thinks I am special in a romantic way, I like letting other people know when I find them attractive or exciting, I hope it boosts their self esteem and encourages them to be the people that they are and not cave in to peer pressure and try to be “like everyone else”. I really don’t like being too intimate with people, especially not sex, that is too private, too personal, too important for me. I reserve that level of trust and intimacy for my immediate family, my parents, my brother, and a couple of children that I have raised. And those are not the people I have sex with. I really don’t like having sex with anyone and I have never found anyone that I want to sacrifice my life and my future and all my plans for. Just like you said in your post, you would not sacrifice your relationship with people you are eternally bound to, in order to get a relationship with a woman that you just met. So what is wrong with the way I live. I don’t feel the need to procreate for the good of future generations. I don’t need to get a trophy blond on my arm to impress people. In short, I don’t need marriage, I do need and I get love from people: good friends; and I devote my life to learning and growing as a person, as I believe all people should. So what is wrong? Well, for many years, I felt like I was neglecting my duty, as if I was eating unhealthy or being an alcoholic, as if not seeking a mate was a sin or weakness that was tragically wasting my life. I don’t believe that anymore, I accept that I don’t want to be married. I like devoting my life to climbing to a higher plane of moral and philosophical purity. Well that is me. So my message to you is march to your own drummer and feel sorry for the people who don’t see that if you are different it is only because in some ways you are superior. Diversity is good, people are not all the same, we should not try to pretend that we are. Well one other piece of advice, which I don’t want to offend you with, but I am going to say it because I like and admire you very much (I hope that increases your self esteem). People have often mistaken my not being interested in sex with women with being gay. They are mistaken, being gay means being interested in sex with men. Men who are gay are out looking for sex with men. That is totally the opposite of believing that sex is too private and personal and important to trust to share and trust other people with. Although I am not afraid of being gay nor do I find it revolting, in fact I admire men for beauty as often as I admire women, in fact, not to offend you, I see that you are very beautiful, but sharing sex with people is not what I want, men or women. and I don’t want to bind myself to any other living soul. I admire and celebrate the divinity of all living things but my soul is not half a life looking for a mate to complete me, I am a unique life and my time on earth is devoted to perfecting my soul. In short, I am a holy man on a lifetime pilgrimage and I blow like a leaf in the wind, lightly touching other souls but never with the force to divert their own pilgrimage through life. These ideas are very alien to Western Commercial Culture, but historically, many people have believed what I believe and lived as I live now. I hope I have not offended you with my story.